Surviving the Holidays Single

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This came up discussing a movie with my bestfriend (Joi) where a young woman hires someone to play her fake fiance because she never told her mom that her fiance broke up with her. She wanted to please her overbearing mom that desperately wanted her daughters to get married to career driven, thriving men. Anyways as movies go she married the man she hired and dumped her fiance that came back after his job denied him a promotion.

Hi, I’m single and also a mom! Most of my friends are not married, like 99%. So here comes the questions like; why aren’t you dating, you are too pretty to be single? Why are you waiting? Where is his dad (my son), I thought you all were so cute (my family that hasn’t seen me in years)!?

So hear is the quality question for you, Are you worth more than holiday bashing? Yes you are! I’ve only had one guy over for holiday dinners. So I never get hey ‘I thought you were dating so and so’. Just remember what God is doing for you and in you, as He is fulfilling youand enjoy being single. It is wonderful to be free instead of trying to impress your family with someone who is sucking the life out of you. You are worth the wait! So that year you do bring the one home, you will be confident that they will be the one that will come each time. People are fickle, the ones that want you to be happy understand you are following the Lord. His say is the most important and lasting. Because you see most of your family and friends just see you once or twice a year. Single this year, YES! I’m happy, not stressed and not trying to impress! Happy Thanksgiving! Merry Christmas!

Be Patient

Another from my cellular device, also another in the wee hours of the morning. I have slept the day away because of being chilled, coughing, and a sore throat. But I will be better soon in Jesus name!

I have been inpatient, Wednesday was the official end date I was to not work for three months. Yes I actually kept up because I get antsy not working. Because I like being able to say I have an income and I need to save for school and house. Big plans, yes but I had to slow down because as I plowed my way into filling out applications everybody seemed to be saying no. What?! It has never been this hard for me to find a job. Banks, Hotels, Retail, all no! I almost had a break down, a complete break down, all these thoughts start popping up and I have an opportunity to move out with a great rent price just waiting on me and I can’t even get a job. So I start to panic, get frustrated, and lose my peace. Thank you Holy Spirit! ‘Let patience have it’s perfect work.’ ‘Trust Me’ ‘Doing it my way instead of your own will always be better.’ Yes Lord you are right as always. It’s the weekend and I am itching to get back to work, I have things to pay for, a child to clothe, feed, support. Not only that soon bills of my own, to tie with car note, phone, lights, gas etc. Tell me I thought growing up was easy at 12. I could go back to hustling and have what I needed with a few phone calls or I could stay in line with the Father who supplies all my needs and wait. I did the applying, the calling, the work, the house searching, but now its time to wait and see what the Lord has in store. You may be waiting for Boaz, Ruth, promotion, clarity, a door to open, whatever you have been praying for. Just wait on the Lord. Last night in my dream, the Lord showed a root being ripped out of me, the root of self reliance. I can do nothing without Him, I cannot breath without the thought of Him. I refuse to go back to the old me, I rather put down the calls, avoid the conversations, leave the ties cut and wait on the Lord. He has it worked out and the manifestion is coming forward.
Be patient, beacuse patience has it’s perfect work.

“I Will Clothe You”

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“So why do you worry about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin;  and yet I say to you that even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.  Now if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is, and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will He not much more clothe you, O you of little faith?
Matthew 6:28-30 NKJV

Bare with me as our internet for the desktop is getting settled. I have only done probably two posts from a phone.

So this is more of a testimony, that trully fits the scripture above. I just started working again from a very well paying job that I held up in for a few months and I just felt like God was pulling at my heart to leave especially after my accident in March. My brother offered me a job as a firewatch out in the western plains of Oklahoma. Did that go well, no. It actually stressed me out so much I stayed sick, swollen, and frustrated the whole time. Walking in total disarray trying to make more money to pay bills, take care of my son during the summer and for the school year. Having some time off (I may have mentioned some of this before) leaving that short term job, the money I had in my account went to a new phone (I hope they didn’t call for me to come to Texas), my car that was running hot to point I couldn’t drive it, (there goes that other job) family issues, etc. Everything was going farther south. Anyways August 18th, I went outside in complete tears, like a snot nosed toddler, saying God, I’m tired of running from you. Whatever it is you want, you can have it. I’m just completely tired. He told me if I would give him three months, He’d catch me up for the three years I lost. Anything talking about my faith was never in my plans for life. I wanted to be a freelance writer, a traveling photographer and just travel the world doing that. Life happens right (hmph). Well I said Lord I want to work and I know your conditions are better than mine but I can’t live here with my parents without a job, I won’t hear the end of it. So he gave me a dream a few nights later and I was with children, walking them from the cafeteria and I thought, Lord no! I have one, to have 15 to 20 at a time there is no way and my patience can deal but you know what Lord, if you say so, I’ll do it. I turned my application in after trying to figure out how to get all the necessary things for them to send me a hard copy to fill out. Being a sub-teacher is the absolute difference in dressing, I’m use to company colors, scrubs, and correctional officer uniforms. Not actually dressing up in slacks, mary janes, and gracious blouses. So I have been second handing; buying piece by piece clothing to at least be presentable, at hoping they would skip a day so I could have something to wear.
Well my mom calls me about going over my aunt to look at some clothes this lady had basically given to her because she had a shopping habit and was trying to de-clutter. My aunt cleans homes (her house is clean enough to lick the floor, spotless, the 20 second rule applies to her house) lol. So I was at the choir fellowship and had just promised my dear sis in Christ that I would come assist her in some of her business when that call was made. My mom brings some things home for me to see and as she shows me I’m thinking wait, this is not an older lady, these are some nice (tag still on most) clothes. My aunts text me and says come as soon as I get off work. Let me shorten this, I basically got a new wardrobe from somebody else’s shopping habit. I had to praise God while going through them. People don’t understand a few things about God! He supplies all, I mean all your needs. Even down to the brown boots I wanted! That money I don’t have ro spend can go else where. I got clothes for my niece as well because I know that it was not about me receiving only, my mom, my aunts all got out something. Lady J (my Pastor’s mother) prophecied during revival that wardrobes were about to change because careers, paths and purposes were changing. God’s word not only renews our hearts, minds and souls, our outer appearance starts to change as well. David couldn’t continue to look like a shepherd boy, Queen Esther a captive, Abraham couldn’t just be Abram, nor Moses being in the presence of God just be normal, He had to have the glory of God reflecting off Him! Even when it looks rough, the heat may turn up, the contractions may seem worst but baby! You are coming out as gold! You are birthing your destiny and you are to lay in green pastures and drink from calm waters. Keep pushing through the dark tunnels, go through the storms, Jesus is empowering you for Greater, this is just basic training!

MIRIAM

I Surrender All?

This title came to me while discussing cleansing with a sis-in-Christ. While I was chatting with her the Holy Spirit gave me an answer but not only to a question that she had but a question I’d been asking for almost a week.

You see God has been really heart checking me about a lot, I personally don’t like dry seasons. Yes it’s a growth period but growing pains hurt. So within this time of growing I was stripped of some of my favorite shows no not Scandal or Empire, I personally don’t get those shows. I was also stripped of reliability on self, where I try to fix it myself but God is trying to get me to rely on Him completely! So I was reading through and it was like a scripture was highlighted in my heart as I read.

In Timothy 4:12-16,
Paul is telling Timothy a few things about how he should handle himself, the ministry that God has given him, and the people placed in his path. What stuck out to me was when Paul told Timothy to ‘give himself entirely over to them‘. I said Lord show me how to give myself entirely over to your path, like I need to be, nothing holding me back. Hey! Jesus said whatever you ask in my name it shall be given unto you.’So I asked, you see Psalm 91:12 says ‘Teach me to number my days, so that I may gain a heart of wisdom‘ I am tired of wasting time. I have been sleep, chasing the tailcoats of a world that will not turn and chase me. When I should be like the woman with the issue of blood, pressing toward Him just trying to touch the hem of His garment.

Surrendering is truly a daily washing, a ritual we must run too! I don’t always run to surrendering, sometimes I go kicking and screaming truly fighting my fleshly desires, I could be seen walking slowly because I don’t have the energy to go through another cleansing. The example I used with my sis, was a dirt covered child that thinks its okay to be dirty and will have you chasing him while he runs to and fro stark naked across the yard. If the child is like my son who hates to be dirty passed play time, that child will run to you because he knows the importance of being clean and will surrender to your arms and the water waiting in the bath.

Do I surrender all? Maybe I haven’t taken full on notice what I need to surrender to the Lord but I know the Holy Spirit will knock on that door in my head and heart soon. It will be in that moment that I have to choose to surrender or push back. ‘Obedience is better than sacrifice‘ is usually the first scripture I hear in my head or ‘pride comes before the fall‘. Then an image of Satan being thrown from heaven follows. Then I’m like okay, I remember and I surrender but I have to continue to surrender until it becomes natural not to want that thing, idea, habit, or whatever it is anymore! God will strengthen you, He is a Good Father or El Emunah (The Faithful God). He will never leave you or forsake you and His love makes that surrender so much easier!

Lord I surrender all! I surrender my will, way and thoughts but replace them Lord with yours. Days I don’t feel like reading my Bible I force myself to at least to read a few scriptures. I have a song that I listen to by Hillsong called ‘Love is War‘, that I play, I blast it. I sing with it, I praise with it because surrendering is cleansing me from the inside out, it’s letting God have his way in my life, giving my original purpose room to spread wings.

Miriam

Queens Blogging for the Kingdom!

It’s the day after my birthday but I celebrate the whole month!!

A day late on the post but the ladies that I am presenting to you, words are always a right now word!

I really think I will do this once a month because there is so much God led encouragement out there and I want it to be known!

The first lady I am presenting to you is like my boss! I have followed her on social media for maybe 4 to 5 years and she is completely amazing. Her name is Shantae Richardson from Philadelphia relocated to Atlanta founder of TeamExLesbian which was created from her own testimony of being delivered from the life of homosexuality; and also PursueMeBlog which encourages single woman to chase after Christ and His purpose for their life, rather than chase after the man. I am absolutely excited about all the things she has planned and I am glad to have been asked to be on board! She is so encouraging. If you check out her blog, Instagram, Twitter, you will certainly fall in love with Jesus because of her presentation of Him. Check out thepursuemeblog.com

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The next women of God I will present is Erica. I you use to wonder did anyone like to blog like me that was close to home, that loved Jesus like me that could inspire me to keep writing, that made me think that with my words can certainly change the world.

Well I certainly found that woman to inspire me, her name is Erica Johnson an active advocate for young girls to be equipped to become bold and wise young ladies. This single mother of two, Jakobe and Jace White, was born and raised in Little Rock, Arkansas. She is the daughter of Bishop and Lady Silas Johnson. Erica attended the University of Arkansas in Fayetteville. Currently she is a member of Junior League of Little Rock and an active role model for the young girls in the youth department at Full Counsel Metro Church. She hosts a Girls meeting called Girl Code every quarter. Erica decided it was time it was time to walk out in her purpose in January 2015. Birthing ‘Her Best Yes’ and ‘The Godly Girl Diaries’ out of past hurts and rejection, Erica’s purpose her writings to encourage all young women to just Say YES to knowing and understanding their worth, identity, or purpose in Christ. Erica Johnson can be contacted at herbestyes@yahoo.com or www.herbestyes.com.

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Last but surely not least is Victoria! I don’t follow everyone on Instagram that follows me because I like my timeline to be as clean as possible. I remember Victoria started following me and like I always do I do a quick trip down someone’s post to see what they are posting. So I saw this beautiful young lady, with a message to remember ‘I’m Somebody’s Good Thing.’ I listen, I watch, and I learn. She may be younger than me but I have no problem being a student.

Victoria Armstead is the visionary and founder of a movement called, “I’m Somebody’s Good Thing”.  For quite some time, she had been praying and asking God to give her a tool to reach women. God answered that prayer! Through a conversation, with her sister Dionna Jackson, He gave her the “I’m Somebody’s Good Thing” movement.

This movement strives to teach and assure ladies of their value, worth, beauty, and treasure by causing them understand that validation and self-esteem are not given by man, but by God. The basis and premises of this movement is Proverbs 18:22 where it says, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” The reason this scripture was chosen is because while reading I got a revelation. Many people know this scripture and quote it religiously, but she wanted to introduce us to a deeper meaning.  She wants people to notice that it says that ‘the man finds a good thing, and not that she becomes a good thing after she is sought out by a man.’ Women are indeed that treasure of endless value before the pursuit even begins and that’s why the scripture goes on to say that the man is granted God’s favor. She believes it’s about time that our women realize this about themselves and God has given her a charge to help her sisters.

She uses tools like social media and apparel to spread this message. ‘I’m Somebody’s Good Thing’ also likes to go and speak to women face to face whether it be one-on-one, at a workshop, or conference. So far this movement has been able to inspire so many ladies and we want MORE! She has chosen to take a stand to say, “I’m Somebody’s Good Thing” and it is her heart’s desire that ladies all over the world will join her. She earnestly wants to bring glory to God by promoting wholeness through Him!

She also recently released her single “Good Thing”, which is the theme song for the ISGT Movement! It is available on iTunes, Amazon, and Google Play!

Here’s her website!

www.imsgoodthing.com

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You know what all these ladies are beautiful women of God and I AM SO excited to get to know them, even if they are miles away. They really have touched my life in ways that maybe they don’t know!

That’s why I couldn’t go without recognizing them because if they are influencing me and pushing me to be my best for the Lord in such a gentle and loving manner, I want them to do the same for you!

So don’t just check out this blog, check out theirs and it will change your life!