All the Single Ladies!

It’s August and I have yet to figure out why every year for the last few years around April to September why God always puts on my heart marriage. I have hints but I think I just started to accept it this year that He is preparing me for the position called Wife. Before I can get there I must go through training, training that the world does not offer. I didn’t come to go deep into the training but God gave me a word to share and that I should blog it. So the next two or three paragraphs will be what he gave to me to share with the dear ladies following me, Kingdom women!

“Marriages are my idea, them to stop putting time limits on my timing, my purpose, my plan. You say you have to have this and do that, but what I want is for you to listen and obey, heed to my word and my will. That is how you prepare for a mate, the world will have you missing out, I laugh at the plans of man; my way is perfect, my timing is perfect, my peace is perfect. stop fretting and being so busy Martha, you can’t hear what I am saying. You see why some of your plans have not become as they should because you need a covering, someone to envision with a husband, you cannot be with me alone, I never designed you for that. Two is better than one, stop whining over cold sheets, what your family is saying, your friends are saying. Because who I bring into your life, most of them will think you don’t deserve him, you don’t worry about their words but you hear and follow my instructions.

My beloved daughters, my Queens, more precious than rubies, who laugh at tomorrow, who have no fear, but fears the Lord, and she shall be praised.”

Look God got you better than you got yourself, continue in His paths and before you know it the man that is your husband will be before you! God bless!

Surviving the Holidays Single


This came up discussing a movie with my bestfriend (Joi) where a young woman hires someone to play her fake fiance because she never told her mom that her fiance broke up with her. She wanted to please her overbearing mom that desperately wanted her daughters to get married to career driven, thriving men. Anyways as movies go she married the man she hired and dumped her fiance that came back after his job denied him a promotion.

Hi, I’m single and also a mom! Most of my friends are not married, like 99%. So here comes the questions like; why aren’t you dating, you are too pretty to be single? Why are you waiting? Where is his dad (my son), I thought you all were so cute (my family that hasn’t seen me in years)!?

So hear is the quality question for you, Are you worth more than holiday bashing? Yes you are! I’ve only had one guy over for holiday dinners. So I never get hey ‘I thought you were dating so and so’. Just remember what God is doing for you and in you, as He is fulfilling youand enjoy being single. It is wonderful to be free instead of trying to impress your family with someone who is sucking the life out of you. You are worth the wait! So that year you do bring the one home, you will be confident that they will be the one that will come each time. People are fickle, the ones that want you to be happy understand you are following the Lord. His say is the most important and lasting. Because you see most of your family and friends just see you once or twice a year. Single this year, YES! I’m happy, not stressed and not trying to impress! Happy Thanksgiving! Merry Christmas!

Unequally yoked?

Just because you meet them at church, doesn’t mean they are the one, demons go to church too.- anonymous

I have had this defined in so many ways, read about it in books and blogs but from the way that I had an understanding when I asked God what would be a definite sign that a man that approached me wasn’t my husband. Of course I was given scripture.

II Corinthians 6:14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness. 

God put it to me this way, “Miriam why would you want to marry someone who does not believe as high as you do?” I have played the dating game, been through the fornication files, and tried to change every Charlie I dated. People are not going to change because you want them to change or beg them, drag them. I believe the old saying is ‘you can take the horse to the water but you can’t make him drink’. I’ve been saved for almost 20 years, I go to a Word-based, faith-filled church and I have been a member almost 5 years this coming January. My pastor teaches and preaches but if I do not apply the word he is teaching me, it is basically going in one ear and out of the other. As he taught last night and I have been learning to do all year is let go of my will and take on God’s will. If that person isn’t heeding to God I guarantee they will not heed to your whining, crying and temper tantrums. Night and day, I have learned to ask God to teach me His way in areas that I am troubled in and strengthen areas I don’t have as much trouble in. My faith has gone from level to level almost daily now, I am in total awe of God. Everyday He teaches me something new, shows me something different and keeps me at the edge of my seat.

I can’t marry someone who is not as awed by God as I am, it would be a dapper, a block and most likely a distraction. Yes that man may very well go to church, sing in the choir, be an usher but if his relationship with Christ is just showing up but fruitless in the faith depart and can’t tell you who Peter is from Paul, Houston we have a problem. So before I look at Billy, Bob, or Joe as potential suitors, if their fruit isn’t gleaming from the tree, it is certainly forbidden fruit.

I have went through plenty of headache and heartache too know that I apparently cannot pick the mate that compliments my life. So next time think about your faith walk, not how good he or she looks, talks or walks. God will allow people to reveal the real them quicker than you can pray ‘Lord is this the one.” Don’t ignore the red flags! I have so many times but when God asked me that question, I knew for real that I could not have anyone that keeps me from pursuing my Creator. I am in love with God and I want to marry someone that loves God over me, his own life, our children, this very world, so as the leader of the home; his family can follow suit.

Remember ladies and gentlemen: Everything that glitters is not gold, don’t be fooled.

*I am in no rush to be married, I do know God is preparing me for that next step. I think this topic has been tossed around so much and this is how God revealed it to me.*

You’re A Vegetarian, What About Your Future Husband?

I am asked this question a lot from my friends and others. Sometimes I wonder why are they so concerned. (lol)

I know why they ask, they just want me to be available because I can be a pretty ‘get to the point’ person. I enjoy that love and concern my family and friends have to offer at times. Then there are times I never pay attention. What about my future husband and what if he isn’t a vegetarian like me? Guess what people, neither is my son. He is a full on omnivore and loves to eat meat. His favorite thing is turkey bacon and blueberry homemade pancakes, if he could eat every day he would. He loves chicken whether fried, broiled, baked or barbecued. He even likes catfish (which no one in this house cooks), but his other nana cooks it and he loves it. No one in this house cooks pork but he eats it when he goes with his uncle and nana and I don’t get mad about it. I am vegetarian because I like it and you know what I may not stay one forever and that is okay too. I encourage any and everyone to seek God for health concerns, losing weight, anything and everything in your life should be a conversation between you and the Creator. He knew us before our parents ever, ever thought about us. Right now you know what I do for my future husband? I don’t stress about when, where, or how? I pray for him real tough. I know if God is with me in my wilderness right now and forever more, our vision is going to have to match. I am more concerned about his soul and whether he is a man after God’s own heart than whether he wants to eat a steak for dinner every night.  About my future husband, I just pray that we are friends, we court, and then we get married, that way we can have some things smoothed out before the ‘I WILLs’.

Romans 10:3 NKJV  Let not him who eats despise him who does not eat, and let not him who does not eat judge him who eats; for God has received him.

Colossians 2:16 NKJV So let no one judge you in food or in drink, or regarding a festival or a new moon or Sabbaths,

Just Miriam

If My People Prayed, Oh How the World Will Change!

II Chronicles 7:14 “if My people who are called by My name will humble themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin and heal their land.

Psalm 77:6 I call to remembrance my song in the night; I meditate within my heart, and my spirit makes diligent search.

Duet 6:18;21 Therefore you shall lay up these words of mine in your heart and in your soul, and bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as front-lets between your eyes. 21 that your days and the days of your children may be multiplied in the land of which the Lord swore to your fathers to them, like the days of the heavens above the earth.

I was watching a well-known teacher on television and he said, his father told him that he should say the Lord’s prayer before his initial prayer and he asked why. His father told him that it covers everything that could ever be prayed. That was two or three years ago. I just started applying it to my life more faithfully. The more I study the ‘Lord’s Prayer’, the more I say it, I know exactly why his father said it before every prayer. I don’t know exactly how he did it but I break it down in sections. I want to share this break down with you because one thing I know is that God is faithful and even my groaning, my tears, hurt is lifted up to him. In my Bible it has a titled section and Matthew 6:9-13 is labeled the model prayer. The model prayer is an example, a guide to how to do something. Prayer is a conversation between me and God and the only way to have a clear conversation with the Creator is to talk with him and listen.

A prayer life is very important for the relationship building that happens between you and God. Sometimes we talk throughout the whole prayer and never let the Lord answer back, we never listen to his instructions and all this is in the prayer that Jesus prayed for us to follow.

Verse 9, “In this manner therefore pray;

Our Father in Heaven, Hallowed be Your name.

When we go into someone’s house we greet them. In my grandma’s house when I go see her. I say hi and I give her a kiss to greet her. I’ve acknowledged her in her own house and honored her by loving on her. The beginning of this prayer does just the same. Stepping into prayer we should acknowledge Him, and be aware this is His house that we have come to have a conversation with Him. Hallowed (to make holy; greatly revered)* is letting it be known that He is respected, there is no one like Him. No God like my God. I go through a list of names and features that describe how He is to me. I may say that He is holy, merciful, loving, pure, righteous, the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end, omnipotent, etc. Every parent wants to be loved on as they love their children and I’m loving on Him, admiring Him for all that He has done for me and He didn’t have to do any of it for me.

Verse 10, “Your kingdom come. Your will be done on earth as it is in Heaven.

I think I’ve been one of those who have never really paid attention to this scripture as I should have. God wants us to have the kingdom experience right here on earth. What is the kingdom? Romans 14:17 ‘for the kingdom of God is not eating and drinking, but righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit.’ Galatians 5:22-23;25;5 says ‘the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. 25; If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.  Going back to Galatians 5:5 it puts it simple. For we through the Spirit eagerly wait for the hope of righteousness by faith.’ God will show you how to have the kingdom experience on earth by the Spirit. Luke 17:21 “nor will they say, See here! or See there! For indeed, the kingdom of God is within you.”

Verse 11, “Give us this day our daily bread.”

Lord give me the instruction for my life this very day in each moment. Is exactly what I say along with this scripture. I will share the scriptures that I use along with this verse. Psalm 90:12 So teach us to number our days, That we may gain a heart of wisdom. Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. Proverbs 4:7 Wisdom is the principal thing; Therefore get wisdom. And in all your getting, get understanding. 1 Corinthians 2:10 “But God has revealed them to us through His Spirit. For the Spirit searches all things, yes the deep things of God.”

Verse 12, “And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.”

Forgiveness is most important in this walk with God. It is the hardest thing to do at times because it is a spirit of offense that drives it. Saying this prayer has taught me to forgive daily and usually right after something happens because I don’t want anything or person, or myself blocking my prayers. I am young mom and I am also single. I blamed my mother for ruining my relationship with my son’s father. I also blamed my son’s father for hurting me after we tried to make it work and it didn’t because of other things. I was 17 and until about three years ago I let that rule over me. I took no responsibility and further more I hated my self for making a dumb decision, letting my morals fall, and just ‘messing up my future with someone I had no future with.’ As I grew in Christ and he revealed Himself to me, more and more, I took lessons instead of pain. I may stumble and fall but I will get back up. I learned to forgive not for anyone; because most times people have no clue you are holding anything against them. I learned to forgive so that I may prevail in the things of God, so that the hate that I had for others and myself could be let go and that He could cleanse me. Luke 17:3-4 Take heed to yourselves. If your brother sins against you, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. And if he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times in a day returns to you, saying, ‘I repent,’ you shall forgive him.”  Matthew 5:44-45 “But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you,’ that you may be sons if your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust.  Matthews 6:14-15 goes further and bluntly says (paraphrased) Forgive others so that God can forgive you and if you don’t forgive others that sin against you, that He cannot forgive you of your sins and trespasses.

Verse 13, “And do not lead us into temptation, But deliver us from the evil one…’

1 Corinth 10:13 ‘ No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it. In Genesis, God told Cain that sins desire was to have him but he should have rule over it. So if the Spirit is urging you to get out of a place you probably know you aren’t suppose to be. Be like Joseph and flee because when you resist, walk away from sin, like Jesus was able to overcome the temptations of the devil after being in the desert (Matthews 4). He will flee from you! He wants an easy battle, someone who will bend under his temptations but stand on the Word and that conviction of the Holy Spirit and you will be delivered from the evil one.

Verse 13…’ For yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen.

All of it belongs to God. The Kingdom He is the One who sits on the Throne (Rev. 4:2-5). The power of (Job 9:4), belongs to Him. The glory belongs to Him (Isaiah 58:8) Forever. So be it!

Prayer changes us, it allows us to commune with the Father. Being open and honest and being yourself with God is okay. He knows every hurt, issue, and cry that you have. I’m learning every day, that no matter how busy I am even if it’s ten minutes instead of the two hours, that my prayer made a difference in my life, my child’s life, a complete strangers life. Prayer is like oxygen to me, I cannot live without it. It’s my lifeline and if I cut it off, I will surely die.

Just Miriam

Philippians 4:6-7 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

‘As I do the word of God, I will become what the Word says I am’- Pastor S. Vincent Johnson

* Google definition

He Who Finds a Wife

Proverbs 18:22

He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the Lord.

This Scripture was given to me March 26, 2015. Almost a month ago today and at the time, I don’t believe I was thinking about marriage, hopefully not as I was still in the beginning stages of recovery from an injury. But I pondered this thought and every time I would read it, a little more was revealed to me. Then the revelation was given to me completely and that too, I kept in my heart. Last night, I was up for a short while late and the Lord told me to write and I asked Him what I should write and he said anything. I was thinking of every other story I had ever written it was something I tore into pieces after reading it over again. Well I guess He had other plans starting with this morning, when I had all these household duties I was going to do and had no peace so I stopped and asked God to show me what I needed to do. I think what He showed me is so powerful for us waiting, preparing and already there.

Genesis 2:18-24

And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone, I will make him a helper comparable to him. Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and bird of the air and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. 20’…But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him.’ 21 And the Lord caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam and he slept,

Your Adam may just be asleep, as God is getting you prepared for him; ‘ and closed up the flesh in its place.’  You are a missing piece in your Adam’s life. We like to say Boaz but I find this way more romantic, no shade though. 22 Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from Man He made into a woman,’ God took everything Adam had known to be created from the ground, but not this creation, it was carved, sculpted beautifully, perfectly from the essence of him. ‘and He brought her to the man.’ Adam was fully awake, not drowsy, not still healing, but fully aware as she was revealed to him. Ladies let God fully awake your Adam, so he can be fully awake in Christ Jesus, when you are revealed. 23 And Adam said,’ Adam gave a speech, not only did he take time to behold her but he spoke about her. So if you can’t be brought up to his parents, friends and family, that may not be your Adam. He did not just see and just name her, as he did when God brought the animals to him. I believe he had a love at first sight revelation of what he was missing in life.

“This is now bone of my bones

And flesh of my flesh;

She shall be called Woman,

Because she was taken out of a Man.”

What is the importance of the rib cage?

According to The rib cage has three important functions:

1. Protection: It encloses and protects the heart and lungs.

Have you ever seen a movie when a man declares his love for a woman and as he does, he places his hand over his heart and says something similar to this ‘You have my heart, mi amour!’ Or have you seen a broken hearten widower who really loved and cared for his wife. It is as if someone knocked the wind from under him, crushing his heart.

2. Supports: It provides a strong framework onto which the muscles of the shoulder girdle, chest, upper abdomen and back can attach.

We use to go visit my brothers when I was younger, one married and one not. My married brother had a wife, children, with a house fully furnished and the kids playing and running in the house. My bachelor brother at his apartment, had an air mattress, a folding table set, plastic ware, and not too much to spare to eat. He had a true bachelor pad, there were no doubts of it. You see even if a woman doesn’t know how to cook, give her six months in a loving marriage and she’ll be ‘Betty Crocker’ tossing three course meals, seven days a week. These meals support a man’s  health, if the man is healthy, his mind is clear, a clear mind can hear the things God wants him to hear. He can support the family at his job happily, no matter the mess he has to deal with. The woman that encourages her husband, cheers him all the way to the gate, leaving loves notes in his car, if he as to work late give him a call, text, leave a message. Baby be that support, you will reap the reward.

3. Respiration: It is flexible; it can expand and contract by the action of the muscles of respiration.

Are you Flexible? This is a blocker for most, I said most women. It’s where submission comes into play. If God calls your husband to pack up you and the family and move across country, across town, or out of the country can you be flexible? Can you expand your faith with your husband and contract your own selfish wants and desires and leave family, friends and familiarity of the life you have at that moment? Being the rib is about protecting, supporting and at any moment being flexible.

verse 24, ‘ Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

Becoming One flesh is deeper than a sexual matter, it is a mind, soul and spirit occupation. Couples who love one another, care for each other and give their marriages one hundred percent eventually to me start to look and think alike. Reflecting off on another and does not a reflection show, you? Does not becoming one with God do the same? (I Corinth 6:17 says, ‘When we become joined with God, we come One in Spirit.’ Phil 2:5 “Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus.)

God saw and said that man should not be alone, not Adam. Adam was probably chilling, eating, petting tigers, climbing trees unconcerned, not even looking for a wife until she was brought before him. Once God revealed her and fully awakened him and he beheld a good thing and obtained favor. One definition of favor by Google web search is ‘an act of kindness beyond what is due or usual’.

Genesis 24 Abraham’s servant asked God to show kindness to His master to find a wife for Isaac (to show favor) to reveal to him who should be comparable to be Isaac’s bride and before the servant could finish Rebekah showed up. Be that Favor that comes upon your Adam’s or Isaac’s life.

Because He who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtain’s favor from the Lord.