Just because you meet them at church, doesn’t mean they are the one, demons go to church too.- anonymous
I have had this defined in so many ways, read about it in books and blogs but from the way that I had an understanding when I asked God what would be a definite sign that a man that approached me wasn’t my husband. Of course I was given scripture.
II Corinthians 6:14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness.
God put it to me this way, “Miriam why would you want to marry someone who does not believe as high as you do?” I have played the dating game, been through the fornication files, and tried to change every Charlie I dated. People are not going to change because you want them to change or beg them, drag them. I believe the old saying is ‘you can take the horse to the water but you can’t make him drink’. I’ve been saved for almost 20 years, I go to a Word-based, faith-filled church and I have been a member almost 5 years this coming January. My pastor teaches and preaches but if I do not apply the word he is teaching me, it is basically going in one ear and out of the other. As he taught last night and I have been learning to do all year is let go of my will and take on God’s will. If that person isn’t heeding to God I guarantee they will not heed to your whining, crying and temper tantrums. Night and day, I have learned to ask God to teach me His way in areas that I am troubled in and strengthen areas I don’t have as much trouble in. My faith has gone from level to level almost daily now, I am in total awe of God. Everyday He teaches me something new, shows me something different and keeps me at the edge of my seat.
I can’t marry someone who is not as awed by God as I am, it would be a dapper, a block and most likely a distraction. Yes that man may very well go to church, sing in the choir, be an usher but if his relationship with Christ is just showing up but fruitless in the faith depart and can’t tell you who Peter is from Paul, Houston we have a problem. So before I look at Billy, Bob, or Joe as potential suitors, if their fruit isn’t gleaming from the tree, it is certainly forbidden fruit.
I have went through plenty of headache and heartache too know that I apparently cannot pick the mate that compliments my life. So next time think about your faith walk, not how good he or she looks, talks or walks. God will allow people to reveal the real them quicker than you can pray ‘Lord is this the one.” Don’t ignore the red flags! I have so many times but when God asked me that question, I knew for real that I could not have anyone that keeps me from pursuing my Creator. I am in love with God and I want to marry someone that loves God over me, his own life, our children, this very world, so as the leader of the home; his family can follow suit.
Remember ladies and gentlemen: Everything that glitters is not gold, don’t be fooled.
*I am in no rush to be married, I do know God is preparing me for that next step. I think this topic has been tossed around so much and this is how God revealed it to me.*