Unequally yoked?

Just because you meet them at church, doesn’t mean they are the one, demons go to church too.- anonymous

I have had this defined in so many ways, read about it in books and blogs but from the way that I had an understanding when I asked God what would be a definite sign that a man that approached me wasn’t my husband. Of course I was given scripture.

II Corinthians 6:14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness. 

God put it to me this way, “Miriam why would you want to marry someone who does not believe as high as you do?” I have played the dating game, been through the fornication files, and tried to change every Charlie I dated. People are not going to change because you want them to change or beg them, drag them. I believe the old saying is ‘you can take the horse to the water but you can’t make him drink’. I’ve been saved for almost 20 years, I go to a Word-based, faith-filled church and I have been a member almost 5 years this coming January. My pastor teaches and preaches but if I do not apply the word he is teaching me, it is basically going in one ear and out of the other. As he taught last night and I have been learning to do all year is let go of my will and take on God’s will. If that person isn’t heeding to God I guarantee they will not heed to your whining, crying and temper tantrums. Night and day, I have learned to ask God to teach me His way in areas that I am troubled in and strengthen areas I don’t have as much trouble in. My faith has gone from level to level almost daily now, I am in total awe of God. Everyday He teaches me something new, shows me something different and keeps me at the edge of my seat.

I can’t marry someone who is not as awed by God as I am, it would be a dapper, a block and most likely a distraction. Yes that man may very well go to church, sing in the choir, be an usher but if his relationship with Christ is just showing up but fruitless in the faith depart and can’t tell you who Peter is from Paul, Houston we have a problem. So before I look at Billy, Bob, or Joe as potential suitors, if their fruit isn’t gleaming from the tree, it is certainly forbidden fruit.

I have went through plenty of headache and heartache too know that I apparently cannot pick the mate that compliments my life. So next time think about your faith walk, not how good he or she looks, talks or walks. God will allow people to reveal the real them quicker than you can pray ‘Lord is this the one.” Don’t ignore the red flags! I have so many times but when God asked me that question, I knew for real that I could not have anyone that keeps me from pursuing my Creator. I am in love with God and I want to marry someone that loves God over me, his own life, our children, this very world, so as the leader of the home; his family can follow suit.

Remember ladies and gentlemen: Everything that glitters is not gold, don’t be fooled.

*I am in no rush to be married, I do know God is preparing me for that next step. I think this topic has been tossed around so much and this is how God revealed it to me.*

You’re A Vegetarian, What About Your Future Husband?

I am asked this question a lot from my friends and others. Sometimes I wonder why are they so concerned. (lol)

I know why they ask, they just want me to be available because I can be a pretty ‘get to the point’ person. I enjoy that love and concern my family and friends have to offer at times. Then there are times I never pay attention. What about my future husband and what if he isn’t a vegetarian like me? Guess what people, neither is my son. He is a full on omnivore and loves to eat meat. His favorite thing is turkey bacon and blueberry homemade pancakes, if he could eat every day he would. He loves chicken whether fried, broiled, baked or barbecued. He even likes catfish (which no one in this house cooks), but his other nana cooks it and he loves it. No one in this house cooks pork but he eats it when he goes with his uncle and nana and I don’t get mad about it. I am vegetarian because I like it and you know what I may not stay one forever and that is okay too. I encourage any and everyone to seek God for health concerns, losing weight, anything and everything in your life should be a conversation between you and the Creator. He knew us before our parents ever, ever thought about us. Right now you know what I do for my future husband? I don’t stress about when, where, or how? I pray for him real tough. I know if God is with me in my wilderness right now and forever more, our vision is going to have to match. I am more concerned about his soul and whether he is a man after God’s own heart than whether he wants to eat a steak for dinner every night.  About my future husband, I just pray that we are friends, we court, and then we get married, that way we can have some things smoothed out before the ‘I WILLs’.

Romans 10:3 NKJV  Let not him who eats despise him who does not eat, and let not him who does not eat judge him who eats; for God has received him.

Colossians 2:16 NKJV So let no one judge you in food or in drink, or regarding a festival or a new moon or Sabbaths,

Just Miriam

He Who Finds a Wife

Proverbs 18:22

He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the Lord.

This Scripture was given to me March 26, 2015. Almost a month ago today and at the time, I don’t believe I was thinking about marriage, hopefully not as I was still in the beginning stages of recovery from an injury. But I pondered this thought and every time I would read it, a little more was revealed to me. Then the revelation was given to me completely and that too, I kept in my heart. Last night, I was up for a short while late and the Lord told me to write and I asked Him what I should write and he said anything. I was thinking of every other story I had ever written it was something I tore into pieces after reading it over again. Well I guess He had other plans starting with this morning, when I had all these household duties I was going to do and had no peace so I stopped and asked God to show me what I needed to do. I think what He showed me is so powerful for us waiting, preparing and already there.

Genesis 2:18-24

And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone, I will make him a helper comparable to him. Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and bird of the air and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. 20’…But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him.’ 21 And the Lord caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam and he slept,

Your Adam may just be asleep, as God is getting you prepared for him; ‘ and closed up the flesh in its place.’  You are a missing piece in your Adam’s life. We like to say Boaz but I find this way more romantic, no shade though. 22 Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from Man He made into a woman,’ God took everything Adam had known to be created from the ground, but not this creation, it was carved, sculpted beautifully, perfectly from the essence of him. ‘and He brought her to the man.’ Adam was fully awake, not drowsy, not still healing, but fully aware as she was revealed to him. Ladies let God fully awake your Adam, so he can be fully awake in Christ Jesus, when you are revealed. 23 And Adam said,’ Adam gave a speech, not only did he take time to behold her but he spoke about her. So if you can’t be brought up to his parents, friends and family, that may not be your Adam. He did not just see and just name her, as he did when God brought the animals to him. I believe he had a love at first sight revelation of what he was missing in life.

“This is now bone of my bones

And flesh of my flesh;

She shall be called Woman,

Because she was taken out of a Man.”

What is the importance of the rib cage?

According to medicallibrary.com The rib cage has three important functions:

1. Protection: It encloses and protects the heart and lungs.

Have you ever seen a movie when a man declares his love for a woman and as he does, he places his hand over his heart and says something similar to this ‘You have my heart, mi amour!’ Or have you seen a broken hearten widower who really loved and cared for his wife. It is as if someone knocked the wind from under him, crushing his heart.

2. Supports: It provides a strong framework onto which the muscles of the shoulder girdle, chest, upper abdomen and back can attach.

We use to go visit my brothers when I was younger, one married and one not. My married brother had a wife, children, with a house fully furnished and the kids playing and running in the house. My bachelor brother at his apartment, had an air mattress, a folding table set, plastic ware, and not too much to spare to eat. He had a true bachelor pad, there were no doubts of it. You see even if a woman doesn’t know how to cook, give her six months in a loving marriage and she’ll be ‘Betty Crocker’ tossing three course meals, seven days a week. These meals support a man’s  health, if the man is healthy, his mind is clear, a clear mind can hear the things God wants him to hear. He can support the family at his job happily, no matter the mess he has to deal with. The woman that encourages her husband, cheers him all the way to the gate, leaving loves notes in his car, if he as to work late give him a call, text, leave a message. Baby be that support, you will reap the reward.

3. Respiration: It is flexible; it can expand and contract by the action of the muscles of respiration.

Are you Flexible? This is a blocker for most, I said most women. It’s where submission comes into play. If God calls your husband to pack up you and the family and move across country, across town, or out of the country can you be flexible? Can you expand your faith with your husband and contract your own selfish wants and desires and leave family, friends and familiarity of the life you have at that moment? Being the rib is about protecting, supporting and at any moment being flexible.

verse 24, ‘ Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

Becoming One flesh is deeper than a sexual matter, it is a mind, soul and spirit occupation. Couples who love one another, care for each other and give their marriages one hundred percent eventually to me start to look and think alike. Reflecting off on another and does not a reflection show, you? Does not becoming one with God do the same? (I Corinth 6:17 says, ‘When we become joined with God, we come One in Spirit.’ Phil 2:5 “Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus.)

God saw and said that man should not be alone, not Adam. Adam was probably chilling, eating, petting tigers, climbing trees unconcerned, not even looking for a wife until she was brought before him. Once God revealed her and fully awakened him and he beheld a good thing and obtained favor. One definition of favor by Google web search is ‘an act of kindness beyond what is due or usual’.

Genesis 24 Abraham’s servant asked God to show kindness to His master to find a wife for Isaac (to show favor) to reveal to him who should be comparable to be Isaac’s bride and before the servant could finish Rebekah showed up. Be that Favor that comes upon your Adam’s or Isaac’s life.

Because He who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtain’s favor from the Lord.